#WeddingWednesday: Tips for the Groom
This #WeddingWednesday we are providing some tips and tricks for the groom for the wedding planning process. These tips include ways to ensure the wedding day is successful. The bride definitely should not have to handle the entirety of the stress of planning the day. It’s not just her day it’s yours too so make sure that you are involved in the process. Two people are getting married: the bride and the groom.
First things first: Have an opinion throughout the process. Don’t put it all on your bride to be. Make sure she knows that she is not alone in the planning. You’re the groom and you have an extremely important role in the wedding so you should have some say in it.
Choose a couple things that interest you and help in selecting what will be used to fulfill that piece of the wedding. Are you interested in the food? Look up local caterers and research the business. Do you want to be involved in the music selection? Then look up different djs and bands that you think would work well for your wedding. You don’t need to select everything for the wedding and you don’t even have to make a clear decision, just help your fiancé with the process. This will also help you to know something about your wedding before attending it; wouldn’t it be awkward to not know what is going on at your wedding until you get there?
Another thing you can do is help out with the wedding registry. The registry is a list of things that people could possibly buy for you and anything in the store could be included on it. You also shouldn’t be a pushover during the process especially with this list. Make sure each item on the list is something that you both want, not just your fiancé or you.
You should also be responsible for all communication with your side of the family. Your fiancé is stressed out enough and if your mother calls every five minutes making suggestions for the wedding or your grandmother calls asking what your fiancé has done thus far then they are going to get more stressed out. Even when your fiancé is stressed out from her own side of the family and is complaining about how they are crazy and too demanding, don’t add fuel to the fire by insulting them with her as that could come back to bite you later.
Prior to the wedding, go to a tailor to ensure that your suit is fitted perfectly. Make sure your outfit is impeccable all the way down to your shoes. You will most likely be wearing a tie to the wedding whether it be a bow tie or a regular tie. You should know how to tie a tie in the style you desire prior to the wedding so you don’t have to ask anyone or go on YouTube looking for a solution. Your look can also relate to the season and the venue for a more complete and well shaped appearance.
As the groom, one of your biggest responsibilities for the wedding is keeping the groomsmen in check. You need to ensure they arrive with the correct tux, at the right place and ready to walk down the aisle. Send out emails to all of your groomsmen telling them exactly what they must do to get their tuxes on time and in a proper fashion. This email will need to include information on when and where they need to get fitted for their tuxes. Tell them they must return the suits the day following the wedding so they do not rack up any late fees. Any information that you can provide regarding their part in the wedding should be relayed in the emails. CC your fiancé in the emails to show you are working hard to make sure your wedding goes off without a hitch.
Make sure that you also give the right roles to the right people. Your most responsible friend should be in charge of the rings prior to the wedding, not the friend who loses something daily. If you have a friend who is known to drink a little too much put someone who is more reliable or sober in charge of keeping him in check.
Your fiancé is going to be extremely stressed out during the whole planning process. Make sure she gets a break from the stress for multiple nights throughout the process so she doesn’t go overboard. Give her a night for rest and relaxation— have a night in with dinner and a movie. This will let her stop for a minute and see what all of the stress is for. She will be thankful that she has you. If you feel that the stress is far too overwhelming then recommend getting a day-of planner for the day of the wedding. This will allow your fiancé to relax on the wedding day and focus on enjoying the day that she worked so hard to perfect. You two will simply be the bride and the groom. Someone else will take over the role of planner for the day-of.
The day of the wedding you should make sure that any hangover you have from the night before is gone. You need to be in the best shape that you possibly can be as the groom. Make sure that you eat breakfast. The day will be crazy and it is not clear how much food that you will get to enjoy in between socializing with your guests.
Also, you should look your best on your big day; all eyes will be on you so shave or have your barber do it if you are too shaky. Don’t try out a new hairstyle the day of the wedding. You don’t want to mess up your look and have that be the first thing your bride sees as she is walking down the aisle. Your clothes must be clean on your wedding day and I mean ALL of your clothes. You will probably sweat on your wedding day. If you already have something that’s not 100% clean on you will smell worse than you would with clean clothes.
Be sure that your groomsmen are aware of this as well and ensure they know the schedule for the day. You don’t want one of your groomsmen to go straight to dinner without first going to cocktail hour because they didn’t know that cocktail hour existed. Send your bride a letter and a gift to remind her of your love for her and that this day will be one of the most memorable of your lives. Show her that all of the stress from the planning was worth it. Double and triple check where the rings are prior to the ceremony. You need to make sure that those rings end up on you and your bride’s fingers. You don’t want to have to search for them moments before the wedding when you might not find them.
Getting married is the easy part of marriage. Everything is written out for you to say and everyone knows what they are supposed to do. You’re the groom and you are getting married to the bride. The officiant will ensure that you say the right things and that the ceremony is done correctly. It is difficult to mess up unless you have an extravagant piece that strays from the script. Be sure to thank each and every one of your guests. Thank everyone as soon as the appetizer course is served. Go around to everyone as they are seated at their tables to maintain efficiency. In the end you will be seen as grateful to all of your friends and family. Congratulations!
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